Feelings Are Not Emergencies: Adventures in Panic, Self-Regulation, and Co-Regulation

Douglas Adams’ fictional Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy has the words “DON’T PANIC” inscribed in large friendly letters on its cover. Arthur C. Clarke, was asked if he could tell people just one thing, what would that be? He answered with those same two words. But what if other people’s negative emotions push you into panic at needing to solve those feelings urgently?

Join Christina Swindells-Nader in exploring self-regulation and co-regulation, how they can help one stop freaking out about ‘bad’ feelings and lead one to tiny, but huge miracles, like getting oneself and one’s offspring out the door on time in the morning.

Sermon text: Feelings Are Not Emergencies – Christina Swindells-Nader July 30, 2023
(copyright 2023: Please obtain permission before posting or reproduction in whole or large part; short quotes may be used citing the author- contact Christina through the Church Office at 204-474-1261.)


Order of Service

Centering Thought    

“People we love have difficult feelings. That’s not something to fix or run away from. But accepting that can take practice if you grew up learning that painful feelings were some kind of failure.”

~ Allyson Dineen, Notes from Your Therapist

Centering Music

Dance at the Gym – Cha Cha by L. Bernstein, performed by Daniel Clark


Cate Ziegler

Gathering Hymn       

#38 Morning Has Broken

Chalice Lighting       

At Times, by Albert Schweitzer, read by Cate Ziegler

Opening Words       

Co-regulation, by Elizabeth Mount, read by Christina Swindells-Nader


Love Is The Spirit 

Story Wisdom           

We’re Going on a Bear Hunt, by Michael Rosen and Helen Oxenbury, read by Christina Swindells-Nader

Sing and Rejoice         

as people return to their seats

Holding Caring Space

Cate Ziegler


#1002 Comfort Me


Love is the New Religion/The Spiritual Conspiracy, by Brian Piergrossi, read by Christina Swindells-Nader


Let us be centered, written by Charlie Elkind, led by Cate Ziegler

The sound of the bell and two minutes of silence will follow the spoken meditation.


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Eliza Aria from Wild Swans Suite by Elena Kats-Chernin, played by Daniel Clark


#1012 When I Am Frightened


Feelings Are Not Emergencies: Adventures in Panic, Self-regulation, and Co-regulation, by Christina Swindells-Nader

Closing Hymn

#118 This Little Light of Mine


Cate Ziegler

Closing Words           

Deep Peace, Gaelic runes, adapted, read by Cate Ziegler

Chalice Extinguishing

Carry the Flame 


Arthur Burstow

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Gratitude for our staff and our lay leaders who made this service happen:

  • Leader: Christina Swindells-Nader
  • Coordinator: Cate Ziegler
  • Accompanist: Daniel Clark
  • Religious Exploration: Carol Lindsay, CLFD
  • Tech Team: Arthur Burstow, Ashlyn Noble, Christina Swindells-Nader, Colleen Milliken, Marjorie Doyle
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